My little personal story:
I accidentally burned a tea kettle and i did not burn down the house. I was just boiling water and playing on my PC while its boiling. I didnt hear the kettle screaming and i burned it a little bit. My parents yelled at me, saying i am clumpy, useless, etc. They compared me to my cousin, whom i hate. They say how my cousin is so much more intelligent, more obeying than i am. I got pissed. They scolded me, saying that "you could have burn the whole house down and we could have been homeless".  I learned my lesson abut they keep screaming at me like "have you learn the lesson yet?" "Do you hear me?" "Look at me!" threat is the most hateful thing in the world .